this magic helped
sudo apt remove notification-daemon dunst xfce4-notifyd --purge && sudo apt autoremove && sudo apt install notification-daemon xfce4-notifyd && sudo apt remove notify-osd --purge
screenshots here
https://imgur.com/a/H3OuBUt
this not help
sudo apt reinstall xfce4-pulseaudio-plugin
sudo apt reinstall pavucontrol
sudo apt reinstall xfce4-indicator-plugin
also reinstalled xfce4-notifyd, not help
https://imgur.com/a/TXncrzQ